The story of Rhiannon and Aaron as told by Rhiannon and their journey to planning their wedding.
Aaron and I met through mutual friends when we were in different stages of our life. Both in very different relationships. 4 years later our lives had changed and one night Aaron asked if I wanted to go for a drive and just catch up. From that moment on we have never left each other 3 years on.
Aaron and I have had anything but an easy start in our relationship. We have faced many struggles in our relationship but always together. Four months into our relationship Aaron and I had moved in together with his parents. For most people they can’t stand their in-laws and many call them their outlaws. But for me they treated me like royalty and still to this day it’s no different.
Six months later an on Christmas afternoon we were sitting around the Christmas tree with Aaron and his niece and my beautiful mother in law. Under the tree there was a box wrapped in princess paper or should I say a box in a box in about another 5 boxes. In the last box awaited a beautiful white gold and diamond ring before Aaron could say anything his 13-year-old niece said ” are you getting married” Aaron looked at me and said so what do you say? All I could think of was umm yeah I guess so. The look on his mums face was one of many emotions all at once and she too did not know what to say. This was the best Christmas afternoon to date. We went to our first bridal expo in our local town of North West Victoria. We had booked our wedding within 2 months of being engaged and started the planning for our celebrations. Everyone was so excited for the two of us. Aaron’s mum was over joyed by her son getting married to ‘thire’ girl as that was what they always called me. She had started offering all this help and getting interested in the planning.
In June of 2013 everything took a turn. My beautiful mother in law started to get sick and wasn’t doing all that well. She started to pick up so we thought. However in August things couldn’t have become worse when Aaron’s beautiful mum had passed away. It shattered our family and made life feel empty. In respect of Aaron’s mother, my mother in law we chose to cancel our wedding and just be there for each other and Aaron’s dad. Try and move forward and deal with life in such tragic time.
Time had passed I won a voucher for a bridal shop where I had found a dress and started to lay buy it. I had half paid off the dress and the bridal shop went belly up and closed down they offered no refund and as we were moving house I couldn’t afford to pick it up so sadly I lost out on that dress. In October of 2014 Aaron and I spoke about getting married again we weren’t in a position to pay for a wedding after everything, but we had promised Aaron’s mum that we would get married in October of 2015.
Aaron didn’t want a big wedding in our local town and I always wanted a beach wedding. We started searching for elopement packages in Adelaide. Through our searches we came across a photographer by the name of Glenn Alderson. We got in contact with Glenn and seen he offered elopement packages with a celebrant by the name of Chris Churchill. Now not being from Adelaide or knowing who was good and who wasn’t we trusted the reviews on Glenn’s page and his work and booked an elopement package with him.
Aaron and I were only going to have an intimate wedding and a dinner for two, however things quickly changed and we decided to make it more of a destination wedding. We got in contact with Glenn once again for his recommendations on where would be nice to stay and to have a small reception. Glenn suggested we stay with Largs Pier hotel so again we went and done the research and liked what we seen so we booked didn’t compare with anyone else just went with it. Then the choosing of location becomes hard. We knew we wanted a beach wedding and knew we wanted it near Semaphore but weren’t sure where.
One day Glenn shared a post by Set Your Scene who i then contacted about ceremony decorations after seeing exactly what i wanted as a beach setting. I asked Kellie from set your scene on where was the best place and she made her suggestion and we went with it and hoping for the best. As for the rest of our wedding planning was slightly more challenging. As not knowing any one it becomes hard choosing cake makers and florist’s hair and makeup artists and a lady to create amazing invites.
I had one florist make me feel like I was a pain in the bum and didn’t really make me feel welcome with her business and when I said things she would say I thought you wanted this. She became to really annoy me and make me feel stupid. So I then changed florists and have found a lady who is fabulous and has been more than helpful in the planning of my flowers as I am after a special touch to them. As for cake makers I had quote after quote but wasn’t comfortable as they were all home based businesses and I just didn’t trust my instincts and some were rather difficult to work with. Thanks to the Adelaide Wedding Advisor group on Facebook I got a recommendation for Sugar and Spice which is a shop and also offered refrigerated delivery which for me was a bonus being so far away from city. We met with Amanda and she was absolutely amazing and has made me feel as if nothing was too hard or any trouble her work looks beyond excellent and the quality and taste of their products is unforgettable which is what you want.
Everything with our planning has now come together and I must say I am more than happy with all my suppliers and couldn’t thank them enough. One lady who I could never thank enough would be Jo from Style My Event. She has had to deal with me change my mind a thousand times and not once has she made me feel less always felt like a valued client. I’ll never be able to thank her for all her work and help she has given me as she has done such a wonderful job in everything.
Our wedding is not just a wedding though it’s a remembrance and will be one of the saddest yet happiest days of our life. The hardest part of our wedding is not having my dearest mother in law by our side seeing us enter our new journey in life instead she will be watching over us. She is the inspiration behind our wedding and the reason we are determined to have it on October of 2015 as we promised her. Neither Aaron or myself can financially afford to have our wedding and are doing it on an extremely tight budget as we aren’t getting help from anyone else. But we are going without a lot of what we would like to have for our wedding and doing many DIY things because of this such as setting up the reception with my Maid of Honor to cleaning the mess up the next day. We’re having to go cheap as possible where we can and missing out on a lot of things we would like to have such as a DJ and having someone set up our reception or having the cars we want more than ever and dreamed of being able to have. But we’re doing our best to make it a special day and keep the promise we made to Aaron’s beautiful mother and to respect her well wishes she gave us. I never thought planning a wedding in another state where we didn’t know the wedding industry be such a good experience I thank each and every one of our suppliers for all their help.
I hope by sharing our story I have touched at least one reader who is grateful for everything they have and had on their wedding day and that the things you stressed about are minimal compared to what others might have to go without on their wedding day.
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